How can both love and violence be said to be victorious in Romeo and Juliet?

Shakespeare was a master of antithesis.  Since he pits
ideas against each other, victory does not seem to be the
objective.

One must realize that both Romeo and Juliet
prefer eternal damnation (since they lived in a Catholic society
and suicide is a mortal sin) than to live in their world of hatred and violence.  These
two young people have been taught to hate each other from birth yet nobody seems to know
why.  Verona itself is divided into these loyalties.

Is the
play then about love or is it about hate which affects all who live in this
violent world?  Or both?

Is Shakespeare using Verona as a
microcosm of irrational hatred.  He obviously abhors war.  One only has to read the
histories to know this.

Who are the victims of this
conflict in the play?  Tybalt is a victim of this irrational hatred.  Mercutio is caught
up on behalf of his friend.  Paris dies because he loves Juliet.  Romeo commits suicide
because he acts before he thinks and Juliet seems to feel that she has no choice but to
join her husband.

The sad thing is that none of these young
people know why they die.  If the adults know, they don't tell us but finally put their
pride aside.

So does love win or violence win or does
anybody win?.  Does the society learn from the sacrifices made by the youth in their
society or do they fall back into the same old ways of hatred resulting in further
violence?

Got to admit Shakespeare gives us a lot to think
about.