Using the narrator as evidence, how do the expectations of society affect our personal identity?

In this coming-of-age story, the narrator lives in a
society that has defined roles for girls. They were expected to be lady-like in their
behavior and to learn the skills needed to be a good housewife. At the beginning, the
narrator is a tomboy who likes to help her father with the outside work rather than
helping her mother with housework. Her mother complains about the narrator's behavior
because it's out of character for a young lady. Over the years, the narrator feels the
pressures of her mother's complaints and society's expectations. She begins to think
about her looks, worrying whether she'll be attractive. The last trace of her resistance
to society's mores are seen when she allows Flora, a horse her father wants to kill, to
escape. Her father isn't angry at her because "she's only a girl". This statement sums
up what society expects of the narrator, and she realizes that she must fit within the
confines of that society.

As she gets older, the narrator
realizes conformity to society's expectations